Ready for some real talk about postpartum life? In the midst of all these changes, capturing those precious moments with the help of a Wexford Maternity Photographer can provide lasting memories.

As a Wexford Maternity Photographer—and a mom who’s been through it—I want to share the unfiltered, often unspoken truths about what those early postpartum days are really like. Not the curated Instagram version, but the raw, messy, and emotional reality. The kind of things I wish someone had told me.

Let’s get into it. TMI? Maybe. But sometimes, that’s exactly what you need.

1. That first postpartum bowel movement? Nobody prepares you for it.

Let’s just start with what no one wants to talk about: going to the bathroom after birth. Yep, that first bowel movement can be painful and honestly terrifying.

Stool softeners are your new best friend—don’t skip them. I used an over-the-counter one and it helped so much. Also, drink water like it’s your job. Prune juice can help too.

Why didn’t anyone warn me? I don’t know. But now you know, and you’ll be better prepared.

2. Night sweats are a thing—and they’re intense.

Your body is getting rid of all that extra fluid from pregnancy, and it often does that through night sweats. We’re talking wake-up-in-a-puddle level sweating.

What helped me? Lightweight PJs, breathable sheets, and a fan nearby (bonus: it doubles as white noise if baby is in your room). And again—stay hydrated.

3. Postpartum bleeding is no joke.

You skipped periods for nine months—now it’s payback time. Postpartum bleeding (also called lochia) can last up to six weeks and be heavy, especially at first.

Stock up on heavy-duty pads. Avoid tampons. If you’re unsure whether your bleeding is normal, don’t hesitate to ask your doctor or reach out to a local postpartum doula like Pittsburgh Doula Network.

4. Your nipples might crack, bleed, and make you cry.

Breastfeeding is natural… but that doesn’t mean it’s easy.

I struggled with nursing both of my kids and ended up exclusively pumping with my second. My nipples were cracked, sore, and bleeding—I went through so much nipple cream and nursing pads it was ridiculous. I wish I had seen a lactation consultant sooner.

If you’re struggling, please reach out to someone like Persephone Rising Perinatal Services. They’ve got amazing support and real solutions.

5. Feeling emotional—or even sad—is normal.

Everyone talks about how magical those first days are. But for many moms, they’re also overwhelming, exhausting, and isolating.

The “baby blues” are common, but if the sadness lingers or worsens, it could be postpartum depression—and that is nothing to be ashamed of.

After my second baby, I struggled. Once I finally asked for help, everything changed for the better. Please don’t wait—resources like Mpower Mental Health or Conscious Healing PGH are here to support you.

6. Perineal care is no joke during your early postpartum days

If you had a tear or episiotomy, healing can be a journey. Don’t let social media trick you into thinking you should “bounce back” in six weeks.

Padsicles, witch hazel, sitz baths, and ice packs are your best friends. Here’s a quick how-to for making your own soothing padsicles:

DIY Padsicle Recipe

1. Use overnight pads
2. Mix ¼ cup witch hazel, ¼ cup aloe vera gel, and a few drops of lavender oil
3. Apply mixture to pads
4. Wrap, freeze, and use as needed

Sitting on a donut pillow, taking warm baths, and accepting help (yes, actually accepting help) can make a big difference.

7. Postpartum hair loss is real—and alarming.

I thought something was seriously wrong when clumps of my hair started falling out. But it’s actually really common.

Hormones shift and your hair that didn’t shed during pregnancy suddenly falls out. It can last for months but it does eventually slow down.

Be gentle with your hair, avoid tight hairstyles, and make sure you’re eating well. You’re not going bald—your body is just adjusting.

8. You are allowed to ask for help.

This one’s big. Asking for help doesn’t make you weak. It makes you smart.

I tried to do it all after my first baby, and I ended up crying from pure exhaustion. Thankfully, my husband jumped in without me asking—but not everyone has that. So if you need help, speak up. Don’t wait until you’re drowning.

Let your people support you. And if you’re craving community, check out The Mom Walk Co. North Hills. They organize casual walks and meetups for new moms around Pittsburgh. It’s a great way to connect, get outside, and know you’re not alone.

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If you’re reading this while pregnant…

Check out my Wexford Maternity Photography portfolio to see how I help moms feel beautiful, seen, and supported during this incredible season.

Want more info about giving birth?

Don’t miss this post: 10 Things Your Doctor Might Not Tell You About Birth | Pittsburgh, PA Maternity Photographer

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You’ve got this, mama.

Postpartum can be messy and emotional—but it’s also full of beauty and growth. Don’t be afraid to reach out, ask for help, and give yourself the same grace you’d give your best friend.

From one mom to another: you’re not alone!!