Let’s be honest—introducing your oldest child to their new baby sibling can feel like completely uncharted territory.

Because, well…it is!

As moms, we worry that their oldest child will not be able to adjust to having a new baby at home. But, here are some simple, practical ways to help them feel excited and included in this big change. It doesn’t have to be hard to prepare an older sibling to a new baby

As a mom myself, I’ll never forget when we told my oldest that she was going to be a big sister. We were so excited, but at the same time, so nervous. How was she going to handle it? How would we make time for both of them? However, the moment we brought her little brother home, she completely surprised us. She helped with feedings, gave the sweetest hugs, and quickly settled into her new role. Of course, it took some adjustment, but we found ways to make sure she still had special one-on-one time with us—especially during nap times.

1. Start with Books

First, one of the easiest ways to introduce the idea of a new sibling is through books. Reading stories about siblings helps your child visualize what’s coming in a way that feels fun and approachable. Some of my favorites are I’m a Big Sister or I’m a Big Brother by Joanna Cole. These books do a great job of showing the ups and downs of having a new sibling while keeping things positive. Reading I’m a Big Sister was a great way to help my older child adjust to having a new baby at home and what that would mean.

2. Let Them Help Prepare

Next, as you get everything ready for the baby, be sure to involve your older child in the process. Kids love to feel included, and even small tasks can make a big difference. For example, you can let them pick out a stuffed animal for the baby, choose a special decoration for the nursery, or even help organize baby clothes. By allowing them to participate, they’ll feel like an important part of this exciting new chapter.

3. Keep the Conversation Going

Big changes can bring big feelings. Give your child space to talk about their excitement and their worries. If they say, “I don’t want a baby!” (because let’s be real, it happens!), let them know it’s okay to feel that way. Reassuring them that their feelings matter will go a long way in helping them adjust.

4. Let Them Be Involved After Baby Arrives

Once the baby is home, encourage your older child to be a helper! Maybe they can hand you a diaper during changes, sing a lullaby, or pick out the baby’s outfit for the day. These little moments of inclusion can help them feel important and needed in their new role as a big sibling. My oldest was the best little helper, she wanted to be involved in everything! This is one of the best ways to help an older child adjust to having a new baby at home. They want to feel involved.

5. Plan Special One-on-One Time

One of the biggest worries parents have (and I had this too!) is making sure the older child doesn’t feel left out. A simple way to ease this is by carving out small, intentional moments just for them. It doesn’t have to be big—a special ice cream date, reading their favorite book at bedtime, or even a short walk together. If you’re in Pittsburgh, here are some fun local places to take your older child for a little extra attention:

• A treat from Millie’s Homemade Ice Cream: Because who doesn’t love some ice cream.
• A morning at The Pittsburgh Children’s Museum: A fun way to engage their creativity.
• A Storytime visit to Your Local library: A perfect place to pick out a new book
• A little adventure at Frick Park: A great place to run, play and get some fresh air.

Keeping up with these small traditions will help them feel just as loved and cherished as ever.

6. Stick to Their Routine

A new baby brings change, but keeping parts of your child’s routine the same can make a big difference. Whether it’s their favorite bedtime story or their go-to breakfast, those little consistencies can be comforting when everything else feels new.

You’ve Got This!

Every child adjusts in their own way, and there may be bumps along the road—but with love, patience, and a little preparation, your little one will step into their new role beautifully.

And if you’re looking for a way to capture these first, precious moments between your new baby and their proud big sibling, I’d love to help. As a Pittsburgh Newborn Photographer, I specialize in creating timeless, heartfelt images that celebrate your growing family.

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